Table of Contents
Introduction xv
Part I This Is Day One 1
1 This Is Day One 3
2 The New Guy 7
Mustafa 8
3 Are You a Leader? 13
The Lollipop Moment 17
Everyday Leadership 23
4 Plan to Matter 27
Your Personal Leadership Philosophy 29
"Could You Explain What That Word Means?" 31
Values: Criteria for Decision Making 34
5 Day One Leadership 43
A Personal Culture of Leadership 43
Living Up to Your Ideals 44
Finding Leadership 48
6 Operationalizing Your Leadership Values 53
Part II Six Key Leadership Values 57
7 The Big Six 59
8 Impact 62
Just 63
Mr. Peters 64
9 Courage 71
Rejection Therapy 71
Confidence vs. Courage 74
The Magic Question 78
The List 81
Change Is Courage 88
Too Young to Settle 94
10 Empowerment 102
The Problem with Drew Dudley 102
Here's the Part Where I Use a Buzz Term 105
Turn In Your Service 109
11 Growth 114
Empowerment vs. Growth 114
"Don't All Books Have Stories?" 115
One Day vs. Next-Day Leadership 120
Why Are You on the Train? 124
The Edge of the Bed Question 127
12 Class 135
The Player to Be Named Later 135
Leaders Elevate 136
Elevating Email 138
13 Self-Respect 142
Treat Yourself First 142
Recognize That Happiness Must Be Cultivated 144
Recognize That Greatest Is the Enemy of Great 147
Stop Wearing Your Fake Leg 155
Plan for Failure 157
The Five Steps of Everything 161
Recognize That Things Don't Happen for a Reason 164
Heal 166
Think Like a Landlord 168
"The Man You're Going to Be One Day" 171
Only Hurt People Hurt Others 174
2,180 176
Part III Defining the Things You Want to Define You 181
14 Identifying Your Own Key Values 183
Now It's All About You 183
Your Three Assignments 184
Assignment 1-The Three Key Values Hypothetical 184
Assignment 2-Your Edge of the Bed Advice 186
Creating Your Own Edge of the Bed Advice 190
Assignment 3-Your Best and Your Worst 191
Reverse-Engineering Values 192
Surfacing Values 199
Value Perception vs. Value Reality 202
15 Creating Your Own Questions 206
What Makes an Effective Question? 206
16 Practice Identifying a Good Question 211
17 Putting the Day One Process into Action 215
18 What Kind of Day Has It Been? 222
Appendix I Value List and Definitions 225
Appendix II Sample Action-Driving Questions 233
Appendix III Value Tally Sheet 247
Acknowledgments 249
Endnotes 253